Top 11+ Family Habits You Should Never Normalize (But Most People Still Do)
- Ignoring Mental Health Struggles
- Normalizing Yelling as Discipline
- Sweeping Problems Under the Rug
- Overloading Kids With Activities
- Making Jokes at Each Other’s Expense
- Expecting Perfection
- Ignoring Privacy Boundaries
- Using Food as a Reward or Punishment
- Comparing Siblings or Children
- Minimizing or Mocking Emotions
- Letting Screens Replace Interaction
Ignoring Mental Health Struggles

Many families still treat mental health issues as something to hide or simply "get over." According to the World Health Organization, nearly one in five children and adolescents worldwide has a mental health disorder, yet stigma and lack of open conversation remain common in households. When families dismiss anxiety or depression as laziness, it can lead to delayed treatment and long-term harm.
The CDC reports that early intervention can make a huge difference in recovery and well-being. Unfortunately, the pressure to appear "strong" often stops people from seeking help.
This silence can be just as damaging as the illness itself.
Normalizing Yelling as Discipline

Yelling at children is often brushed off as a normal part of parenting, but research from Harvard Medical School has shown that harsh verbal discipline can increase the risk of behavioral problems and depression. Despite this, a 2023 survey by the American Psychological Association found that over 60% of parents admit to yelling at their kids regularly.
Studies highlight that children exposed to frequent yelling are more likely to struggle with aggression and emotional regulation. This unhealthy habit is passed down through generations, making it feel normal.
Health experts now emphasize calm, constructive discipline instead.
Sweeping Problems Under the Rug

Family conflicts and disagreements are often quietly ignored rather than discussed openly. The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy reports that lack of communication is a leading cause of relationship breakdowns.
In 2024, a study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that families who avoid tough conversations are more likely to experience ongoing resentment and unresolved issues. This habit teaches kids to suppress their feelings and avoid conflict at all costs.
Open dialogue, though uncomfortable, is far healthier in the long run.
Overloading Kids With Activities

It’s now common for children to have packed schedules full of sports, music lessons, and tutoring. Yet, according to a 2023 study published in the journal Pediatrics, overscheduling can increase anxiety and burnout among kids and teens.
The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry warns that too many activities leave little room for relaxation or family bonding. Many parents believe a busy child is a successful child, but research shows that downtime is crucial for healthy development.
Learning to say "no" to extra commitments is often overlooked.
Making Jokes at Each Other’s Expense

Sarcasm and teasing are sometimes seen as harmless fun in families, but a 2024 study from the University of Michigan found that frequent "joking" can actually lower self-esteem in children and teenagers. According to the National Institutes of Health, chronic teasing is linked to increased anxiety and strained relationships.
The line between playful teasing and hurtful remarks is often blurred, leading to emotional scars that last. Healthy humor builds bonds, but mocking or belittling family members should never be normalized.
Expecting Perfection

Families often set impossibly high standards for grades, appearance, or behavior. The American Psychological Association reported in 2023 that perfectionism in children is rising, with nearly 30% of teenagers feeling immense pressure to be perfect.
This mindset can lead to anxiety, eating disorders, and depression. In a world obsessed with achievement, mistakes are sometimes treated as failures instead of learning opportunities.
Accepting and discussing imperfection is essential for emotional resilience.
Ignoring Privacy Boundaries

Many parents believe they have the right to invade their children’s privacy, checking text messages or personal diaries without consent. However, a 2025 Pew Research Center survey found that teens who feel their privacy is constantly violated are more likely to mistrust parents and hide important issues.
Healthy boundaries teach respect and build trust within families. Experts now stress the importance of gradual independence and privacy for developing self-confidence.
Using Food as a Reward or Punishment

Offering dessert for good behavior or withholding treats as punishment is a common family practice. Yet, a 2024 World Health Organization report connects this habit with unhealthy relationships with food and an increased risk of eating disorders.
Teaching kids to associate food with emotions can lead to lifelong struggles with body image and self-control. Encouraging balanced, mindful eating habits is far more beneficial for both physical and emotional health.
Comparing Siblings or Children

Many parents think comparing siblings is a way to motivate them, but studies show it often breeds resentment and rivalry. A 2023 article in the Journal of Adolescence revealed that more than 40% of children who are frequently compared to siblings report feeling less valued by their families.
This can damage self-esteem and sibling relationships. Celebrating individual strengths instead of stacking children against each other leads to healthier family dynamics.
Minimizing or Mocking Emotions

Brushing off sadness, anger, or fear with phrases like "You’re overreacting" or "Stop being so sensitive" is a habit many families fall into. The National Institute of Mental Health reported in 2024 that emotional invalidation increases risks of depression and anxiety among young people.
Validating feelings helps children learn to manage emotions and build resilience. Families that minimize emotions often create an environment where kids feel misunderstood or ashamed.
Letting Screens Replace Interaction

With the rise of smartphones and streaming, families often spend more time staring at screens than talking to each other. A 2023 Common Sense Media report found that the average family spends just 34 minutes a day in real conversation—less than half the time spent on individual screens.
Experts link this shift to increased loneliness and weaker family bonds. Making time for device-free meals or shared activities can dramatically improve connection and well-being.