Top 23+ Things People Still Teach Their Kids That Are Not Only Wrong But Also Harmful

#1

To just ignore bullies. As a former teacher, it does nothing to address the issue. The bullying persists 100% of the time.

#3

That play ends when you reach adulthood. Play is important, even when we're grown.

#5

That you are only successful and happy with a college degree, married, and have children.

#7

You can get what you want if you’re nice. It teaches children how to be manipulative & dishonest. Instead, teach them to handle “No”. Too many people grow up and get offended at being told “No”. Teachers & Parents want their children to learn how to ask for things in a polite way - but not how to handle rejection. My brother teaches children and he will actively tell kids “No” and encourage them to find alternative solutions that don’t infringe on someone’s decision.

#9

Food pyramid as it is. It's wrong.

#11

That ugly = bad/evil. I partially blame TV animation for this one though. This often makes kids fear elderly people and make unfair connections between appearance and personality.

#13

I don’t believe in forced apologies. They’re not legitimate apologies and the other child knows this. I also don’t feel adults should force children to accept an apology. Forced apologies and acceptances don’t have any benefits. I am a 3rd grade teacher. My students know I won’t force an apology. Instead, I speak to the students about their choices and how it made others feel. I’ve found that, once students realize what they did, they do apologize on their own and the other student does accept it because they know the apology is sincere. Often times, students will even try to resolve the issue on their own. It’s common for students to ask me if they could speak alone in the hallway. They then return proudly stating that they resolved their issue. Obviously, if something is not resolving itself, I’ll continue to help students through it. I will also step in for more significant disagreements. However, I’ve found that students are able to resolve issues an overwhelming majority of times. However, they are never truly resolved with forced apologies and acceptances of forced apologies because the underlying issue is still there.

#15

“Please” isn’t a magic word. It often won’t get you want you want. “I’m sorry” doesn’t erase a wrong and is only one small part of an apology, which the wronged party is not obligated to accept.

#17

Boys dont cry

#19

That the size of your body (height included) is any measure of your worth.

#21

To accept collective punishment. Whomever did something to get in trouble for is who gets the punishment. So many teachers do this to kids and it just breeds resentment for both the teacher and the kid who keeps getting the whole class in trouble. I dont want my kids to be prepared to accept this as adults, and just deal with it from the govt, society, their employer, etc.