Top 25+ Things People Have Had To Unlearn After Their Parents Ingrained Them In Their Childhoods

#1

The need to always be productive. There is no sitting down. If you sit down you can be folding laundry, organizing something. The house must be spotless the yard must be pristine (even if there’s only one person to do all of it) and time for yourself is frivolous. Anything short of this is laziness. The ultimate sin. I’m literally sick from living that way. The guilt of self care is gut wrenching.

#3

Don't talk back. I was just explaining my logic and my way of problem solving. Sorry that it sounded like disrespect but that's your problem. And my parents wonder why I don't share information with them anymore. Because heaven forbid your daughter share actual information with you.

#5

All unions are bad. (my dad). Refused to work a union job. Ended up with nothing but a life of financial struggles. He was not thrilled when I took a union job. Twenty years in a union (private sector). Good wages, vacation and traditional pension. It was not an easy job for me but at least I have something to show for it.

#7

I was bullied a lot growing up. I was a miserable little girl who heard "Boys you pick on you actually like you," and "Girls who pick on you are just jealous of you."

#9

The whole make you finish what’s on your plate thing. Yeah I’m not hungry why you making me eat?

#11

Typical religious fanatic nonsense.

-My role as a girl was to prepare myself to be the best wife and mother.

-CSA is the victims fault.

-What I wanted didn’t matter, know your place.

-There’s no point in educating girls and women.

-If someone is a religious leader, they can do no wrong.

#13

"People making minimum wage are stupid and beneath us." "People on government handouts are a drain on taxpayers who work for their money." "Universal healthcare is communist and unamerican." -My father who has never had a job interview or put together a resume in his life. He joined the army at 18 and is still in it over 30 years later as an officer. Whose entire salary is paid by taxes. AND has his healthcare and education paid for by the government. It baffles me how he doesn't see his own hypocrisy. How he can think it's okay for these benefits to be given ONLY if you risk life and limb (and be overseas most of your child's life).

#15

“Everyone is more important than you.” When I was a junior in high school she once quite seriously asked my best friend why he would be friends with me because she couldn’t understand why anyone would be.

#17

I’ve recently realized how much of my negative self-talk is directly from my parents. Something good happens and I STILL get negativity.

#19

That I always have to explain/justify my mood if I’m in a bad or irritable or sad mood. No I don’t. Just let me be!

#21

Don’t ever ask for help.

As an adult I watched the end of “My Cousin Vinny” and realized how that had been holding me back.

#23

The vast gulf between "adults" and "children." I'm in my early 50s and I still think of other people as "adults."

#25

My mom put a lot of stock into people who had a lot of money, drove fancy cars, took fancy vacations. As an adult who is struggling to get by - I realize how ridiculous she sounds/acts. Your friend from high school just Bought a $3 million house. That’s great for them. I believe they had a large trust fund. I have to work for everything