Top 9+ Ways to Compassionately Navigate Family Conflict When Selling Your Family Home

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first"

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first", 4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?", 5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?", 7. "What about our inheritance?", 8. "What if you need the space later?"

You may be surprised or annoyed to hear this since it's your home, but your kids spent a lot of their lives in this house.

Let them know you understand how they might feel left out, but that this decision is complex. You needed to understand your options first before discussing the move with them. Next, involve them where it makes sense. For example, sorting through items or planning the move.

4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?"

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first", 4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?", 5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?", 7. "What about our inheritance?", 8. "What if you need the space later?"

When you've poured love and time into a hobby, your kids may not be able to imagine you stepping away from it.

These rooms or activities may be part of your identity, especially in the eyes of your children.

Let them know how you are coming to terms with leaving. If you are going to recreate something similar in your new place, talk to them about it and how you're comfortable with that decision.

5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?"

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first", 4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?", 5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?", 7. "What about our inheritance?", 8. "What if you need the space later?"

This may be strange to hear from young adults who have started their lives away from home. However, even college kids see their family home as "home base." Reassure them that home means being together as a family, wherever you are together.

Make sure to plan something special for their first visit to the new house.

7. "What about our inheritance?"

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first", 4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?", 5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?", 7. "What about our inheritance?", 8. "What if you need the space later?"

Your kids may have imagined raising their children in your family home or using it to fund their lives after you pass. These conversations can be complex, and families have different comfort levels on the topic of money.

You can share a general picture of your financial situation or let them know how this move benefits the whole family.

8. "What if you need the space later?"

2. "You didn't discuss this with us first", 4. "What about dad's workshop or mom's garden?", 5. "Where will I come home to during college breaks?", 7. "What about our inheritance?", 8. "What if you need the space later?"

Whether they're thinking about room for potential caregivers or keeping the option open to move back in, explain why less space works better for you now.

For example, smaller homes mean less cleaning, less upkeep, lower bills, and more free time. If your current home has become too much work or too expensive, let them know how. This could include the increasing difficulty of stairs or yard work, the cost of insurance, or rising utility bills.

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