Signs you should give your partner more space

1. Crankiness

We often get short-tempered and cranky when we need alone time and aren’t getting it. This has been a problem for couples the world over during the coronavirus pandemic.

It’s not okay for your partner to take their frustration out on you or be rude, but if they’re getting snippy you can take that as an opportunity to focus on yourself for a while. Taking a bit of space (even if it’s just in separate rooms) can allow things to calm down and give them what they need.

2. Starting pointless arguments

Starting arguments out of the blue is often a way we push people away. If your partner is doing this, it may be a sign that they need some time to themselves. They may not be aware of it or simply don’t know how to ask for it, so they unconsciously take this indirect route.

3. They never offer an opinion

If your partner rarely offers an opinion when you’re discussing things, it might mean that they’ve gotten too used to relying on you to supply them. If this is the case, it’s a good idea for them to re-learn how to stand on their own two feet.

You can subtly help this process by encouraging them to make small choices, like what movie to watch or what to have for dinner.

4. Closed-off body language

If your partner doesn’t stick as close to you as they used to, it may be a sign they’re trying to find more space for themselves. This might present itself in them avoiding cuddling in bed, curling up on the opposite end of the couch, or being less receptive to hugs and kisses.

5. Co-dependent personality traits

Is your partner constantly checking in with you for approval and unable to make a decision by themselves? This may mean they’re becoming too dependent on you and are losing their self-esteem.

Encouraging them to branch out or to even attend therapy might be appropriate here. If they start connecting with friends more often or begin discovering new hobbies, it can help them regain a healthier attitude towards the relationship.

6. Changing schedules

Another way your partner may try to find space for themselves is by changing up their schedules. This could mean they’re starting to get up earlier than you or staying up later at night to carve out some alone time for themselves.

7. They’re protective of their hobbies

You may notice your partner is starting to guard hobbies that are just for them, like social activities, sports, or TV shows. They seem resistant to include you and want to save them for themselves. This may be another sign that they’re trying to find space that’s just for them.

8. They have a lot going on

If your partner has a lot going on, it’s natural that they need some space to deal with it. We only have so much mental energy to expend. If we’re dealing with family problems, pressure at work, or money worries, it can be difficult to find the resources to prioritize our partners as well.

9. You notice a pattern

You might notice a pattern with your partner’s habits. For example, if they work long hours they might need to crash early on Friday nights. If they’re introverted, they might need to seriously chill after social engagements.

10. They give you short answers

If your partner is giving you one-word answers, it’s a clear sign that they don’t want to communicate at that moment. If it becomes frequent, then it’s an even bigger problem.

11. Subtle (or not so subtle) hints

You may notice that they make excuses to do things alone. For example, if they’re heading out to the supermarket and you offer to join them, they might add that they have another errand to run that’ll take a long time.

12. They’re quieter than usual

Some people get quiet or retreat into themselves when they need to recharge. If you notice your partner is quieter than usual, this might be a sign they need some time alone.

13. They say they need a minute

If your partner is able to recognize their limits, they may tell you that they need a moment during an argument or discussion. They see that they’re getting a bit overwhelmed and need a breather. This is the mature way to handle it.

14. The vibe is just off

Sometimes things just don’t feel quite right. There can be many reasons you’re not getting on as well as normal or feeling a bit off with each other. It’s possible that the two of you need more space and your relationship is being strained as a result.